KayaTran
05-09-2006, 01:23 AM
1. Don’t tell her you like her; show her. Nasty looking Ben Franklin got lots of chicks. His self-professed secret? “I pay attention to women.” —>ie they thrive on Attention.
2. Pay attention to her. Notice the little things and find a way to make her think about you every day. —>ie they thrive on attention
3. DON’T talk to her for hours every day. That one little thing to make her think of you ought to do it. This is espectially effective if you aren’t present; ie mail her something. —>ie she wants attention from other men, not just you.
4. Girls want to feel special. There are lots of pretty girls; compliment her on something that makes her unique. —>ie they thrive on attention
5. Make plans that are out-of-the-ordinary; things you haven’t done with anyone before and most likely wouldn’t do with your friends. —>ie show her she’s got your attention.
6. Be good; be open; be confident. —>ie give her all your attention.
7. When she talks… listen. Listen and respond. Responding means it’s helpful to have your own thoughts and opinions to respond with. If you’re too slow for thoughts and opinions of your own, just rephrase what she says and say it back to her. —>ie be attentive.
Tips
* If she’s having a bad day, do something little like deliver a care package of “cheer up” stuff, but generally let her have her space. If you’re there every time she’ll subconsciously associate the bad feelings with you.—>ie even though they thrive on attention, if you give them too much attention, they will seek attention elsewhere (very rational). You should just innately know how much too much attention is, because they are rational and have defined lines.
* Don’t drop the “L” word right away. If she drops the “L” word too soon, you have to say it back but then don’t say it again.
* If she seems to be backing off, you back off. If she’s having doubts and nothing changes, she’ll dump you.
* Learn the things she does when she’s upset. If she’s doing those things, make sure she knows that you notice and that you care, and then back off.—>ie ATTENTION!!
* While you’re dating her, spend MORE time on the things you like that have nothing to do with her. If you stop growing because you dote on her too much, then you’ll have changed the things she liked about you in the first place. However be careful as she may flip this on you and say you arent giving her enough attention.
* Jump on any opportunity to see her when she wants to do something spur of the moment and fun. Those are the days she’ll associate with “happy ever after” movie romances, and that’s good for you.
* At least once, show up unexpected.—>unexpected attention, the epitome of true love.
* NEVER be whiny or wallow in self-pity around her. She wants to be your girlfriend, not your mom.
Warnings
* There is a huge warning here. If you notice the thing about her that makes her different, you notice the things she does when she’s happy or sad, you make time to do unique things with her, and you grow as a person outside of the relationship, there is a good chance that you will fall in love with her as well. While this is generally a good thing, you should also proceed with caution. Girls can be fickle.
Things You’ll Need
* Ask her things, like what her favorite book was as a child, what her favorite comfort food is, her favorite song, etc. That way you’re ready with those things if she needs cheering up, etc.
* Befriend her best friend. You will soon see that this is helpful in almost every way.
* Know where she works and someone else who works there so that you can plan a surprise at her work.
* The Kama Sutra, oils, candles. (The rest of this advice is all well and good, but you’ll need to be decent in the sack, too. You don’t necessarily have to be Superman right off the bat, but be ready to learn and try new things to make her happy.)
What do you guys think of that... do you think us... as girls.... like that... B) :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
2. Pay attention to her. Notice the little things and find a way to make her think about you every day. —>ie they thrive on attention
3. DON’T talk to her for hours every day. That one little thing to make her think of you ought to do it. This is espectially effective if you aren’t present; ie mail her something. —>ie she wants attention from other men, not just you.
4. Girls want to feel special. There are lots of pretty girls; compliment her on something that makes her unique. —>ie they thrive on attention
5. Make plans that are out-of-the-ordinary; things you haven’t done with anyone before and most likely wouldn’t do with your friends. —>ie show her she’s got your attention.
6. Be good; be open; be confident. —>ie give her all your attention.
7. When she talks… listen. Listen and respond. Responding means it’s helpful to have your own thoughts and opinions to respond with. If you’re too slow for thoughts and opinions of your own, just rephrase what she says and say it back to her. —>ie be attentive.
Tips
* If she’s having a bad day, do something little like deliver a care package of “cheer up” stuff, but generally let her have her space. If you’re there every time she’ll subconsciously associate the bad feelings with you.—>ie even though they thrive on attention, if you give them too much attention, they will seek attention elsewhere (very rational). You should just innately know how much too much attention is, because they are rational and have defined lines.
* Don’t drop the “L” word right away. If she drops the “L” word too soon, you have to say it back but then don’t say it again.
* If she seems to be backing off, you back off. If she’s having doubts and nothing changes, she’ll dump you.
* Learn the things she does when she’s upset. If she’s doing those things, make sure she knows that you notice and that you care, and then back off.—>ie ATTENTION!!
* While you’re dating her, spend MORE time on the things you like that have nothing to do with her. If you stop growing because you dote on her too much, then you’ll have changed the things she liked about you in the first place. However be careful as she may flip this on you and say you arent giving her enough attention.
* Jump on any opportunity to see her when she wants to do something spur of the moment and fun. Those are the days she’ll associate with “happy ever after” movie romances, and that’s good for you.
* At least once, show up unexpected.—>unexpected attention, the epitome of true love.
* NEVER be whiny or wallow in self-pity around her. She wants to be your girlfriend, not your mom.
Warnings
* There is a huge warning here. If you notice the thing about her that makes her different, you notice the things she does when she’s happy or sad, you make time to do unique things with her, and you grow as a person outside of the relationship, there is a good chance that you will fall in love with her as well. While this is generally a good thing, you should also proceed with caution. Girls can be fickle.
Things You’ll Need
* Ask her things, like what her favorite book was as a child, what her favorite comfort food is, her favorite song, etc. That way you’re ready with those things if she needs cheering up, etc.
* Befriend her best friend. You will soon see that this is helpful in almost every way.
* Know where she works and someone else who works there so that you can plan a surprise at her work.
* The Kama Sutra, oils, candles. (The rest of this advice is all well and good, but you’ll need to be decent in the sack, too. You don’t necessarily have to be Superman right off the bat, but be ready to learn and try new things to make her happy.)
What do you guys think of that... do you think us... as girls.... like that... B) :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: